He said usually we feel that couples are either fine with their partner, or have adjusted with them or have grown to like them invariably. Well it was anything but that in most cases. He explained, in most of the cases it was women who regreted being the person they have married. And some cases they were men. The regret was seen in many areas. Some were not happy with the kind of character their partner had, some with their nature and were frustated living together. A lot cases had common complains. He changed after marriage. hes not the same, he/she cared more before. Some gave complains like they were cheated. They were kept in dark about lot of aspects of their partners life or lied on. Or further more they cheated in relationship(which is getting more common then reality shows nowadays).
He obviously could'nt go through this whole presentation. But he concluded that its not that last generation people have excepted and lived with whoever they got married with. They have actually lived with the regret, frustation and pain. I would'nt say it applies to everybody, but definitely to large group of people.
We may always try to find one way or other to have "a kind of perfect" relationship, but what comes out is there is no sure shot solution or remedy. One can't comment on what'll work, arrange marriage or love marriage. At the end of the day what is it? What can keep you going and keep you happy importantly?
I say it is just about tolerating each other. the question is how much can you tolerate the other person? Enough to spend, no i'll correct myself, Tolerate enough to live your life with the chosen one(that is if there is a chosen one). Yeah! Thats how your brain may analyse. Will you be able to Tolerate this person for a lifetime?